So many of life's challenges depend on our ability to follow through. Relationships are the most fragile when we fail to follow through. As a minister most problems people speak to me about concern their inability to follow through.
A wife who has been abused needs to follow through with her plans to get to a safer place. A parent must follow through disciplining their child. A child, an adult for that matter, will not budge if she/he knows you are not going to follow through.
"But he will be so mad.", you say. So! Are you telling me you can't bare your child being angry with you.
Come on! Once you follow through and your child knows you aren't going to budge....he/she will eventually realize anger, temper tantrums, threats can and will no longer manipulate life.
My brother is in his tenth year of recovery. It took many years for him to admit that he was an alcoholic. My parents bailed him out too many times. Finally, a straight talking counselor helped my parents understand that by bailing out my brother they were helping to kill him. They agreed then and there to not bail him out again.
My brother was at that counseling session. He must have seen the transformation of my parents. After a long silent pause he said to my parents, "What took you so long? I needed you to make the decision a long time ago."
My brother needed my parents to follow through, to not bail him out, to step aside and force my him to deal with life on his own.
That's what every person needs.
So the answer my friend who called me today: F.T. Follow Through!
Eventually you will get to a better place!
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